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Friend as Zafu

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” I am really sad because of all difficulties I am facing in my life,I am not getting promoted ,my salary doesn’t justify the hard work I put in my work,I need to buy a home which I can’t do and sometimes I feel like my life has no motive ” ,He told to his friend.

“You know you should thank to God for capabilities  you have and you can always find other options to get what you want ,sometimes time doesn’t work according to our effort, but that doesn’t mean that we get anxious and stop trying.Also when you feel that you don’t have motive in life, try to help those who don’t have education to find work , who can’t afford a place to buy on rent even and who don’t have food to eat”, his friend said.

This is just a piece of fiction but I think  if every friend,parent,teacher,boss will act as zafu, helping his/her friend/colleague/children in realising the importance of their life by showing them facets of positivity when they need it most then stress, depression and suicide like terms will be rarely heard.

Thought of the day :

When ever you feel that you are the most unhappy person on earth, look around yourself and you will find people who have many more reasons of grief but still they manage to smile and think positive.

© Payal Tyagi,Writings By Payal Tyagi

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Mera sab bura bhi kahna par accha bhi sab batana,

Mai jab jau is duniya se to meri dastaan sunana.

Ye bhi batana ki kaise samundar jeetne se phle mai hazaaro baar choti choti nadiyo se hara tha.

Wo ghar wo zameen dikhana,koi magroor jo khe to shuruwat meri jarur batana,

batana safar ki dushwariya meri, taki koi jo meri jaisi zameen se aaye

uske liye nadi ki jhaar humesha choti hi rahe aur samunder jitne khwab unki aankho se kabhi jaye nhi.

Par unse meri galtiya bhi mat chupana, koi puche to bta dena ki kis darje ka nakara tha mai.

Kah dena jhootha tha main,batana kaise jaroorat pe kaam na aa saka ,vaade to kiye par nibha na saka,

intkaam saare pure kiye par kuch ishq adhure rahne diye.

Bta dena sabko ki main matlabi bada tha, har bade makaam pe tanha hi khada tha.

Mera sab bura bhi kahna, accha bhi sab btana

Main jab jau is duniya se to meri dastaan sunana…

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By Stand up comedian Zakir Khan

 

I saw a video in which Zakir poured out heart on story since from his struggling days  at Mehfil of Spoken 2017  where he recited this poetry telling how he want people to remember him after he leave this world and it touched my soul.

For people those who can’t understand  Hindi, I would apologize for not translating the deep emotions….

 

Meri Dastaan Sunana by Zakir Khan

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Eddie and Patty

Goa is a dream destination for most of the people to visit at least once in a life time, but for the residents it’s a daily routine as it was Eddie Steward who was working there in the SBI bank. She was single and a beauty with brain whose best friend was her sweet little Patty more than any human. Patty was a beautiful white kitten who mostly used to remain cladded in furry jackets enhancing her beauty, especially the royal blue jacket on her shining body hairs could give the painting goals to any artist. Whenever Eddie used to be free she takes Patty along to enjoy the tranquillity on beaches of North Goa. This was her every weekend plan until her parents who were living in South Goa called to tell about suitable match they found for her and asked her to come home on weekend as they had arranged a meeting.

“Ma, why did you arrange without asking me? I don’t want to meet anyone.”

“Eddie, we are listening that from last two years but now we can’t wait anymore, how long you want to take? You have already crossed your age.”

“Still Ma, I am not the Spinster. Why don’t you understand that I am not ready for marriage yet ??”

“And why don’t you understand, what we are going through.”

After this Eddie couldn’t say a word thinking that she might have the right to decide for her life, but she has no right of hurting her parents.

Eddie wasn’t single since she graduated the college seven years ago. She had someone in her life whom she loved so intense that when she had her break up she decided that she won’t marry. Though Ansh wasn’t a Christian lad but it doesn’t matter  and she decided to follow her heart until he left her broke, the day he realised that his feelings wasn’t that serious for her to bound himself in a commitment. Eddie’s mother sighed a huge relief after hearing about it without having any idea of her dark circumstances. Her parents were strict about the rule, they made for their princess that she has to keep the honour of the family by getting married to a Christian boy which she knew very well but her heart didn’t.

Since last four years she became an introvert who wouldn’t like to socialise much with humans after getting stumbled due to fear of getting hurt and that’s how she met Patty. She used to grumble with her most of the time when she had the urge to talk. When Eddie’s mother informed her about the meeting, suddenly she started feeling butterflies in her stomach. Now she had been alone so long with Patty that a fear of incompatibility started haunting her. But she had no choice left now.

On Saturday, it was shiny beautiful morning where the sun was bathing the beaches with its colourful rays but for Eddie it was kind of an exam day where she had no interest in breathing the beauty around rather she had to reach her home soon. After reaching home as per her mother’s instructions, she wore sky blue silk sari wrapping tightly around her snowy body which embraced her beauty more. She wanted to tie her hairs but her mother didn’t let her. After sometime the boy and his family reached.  His name was Richard Thomas, working in five-star hotel and was perfectly apt for tall, dark and handsome statement. After sometime the parents of both parties asked Richard and Eddie to spend some time alone. Though Eddie was quite reluctant to talk but a question in her mind was nagging her whether she would be able to keep her Patty along or not. Richard gave start to their conversation by asking her likes and dislikes and in return she replied asking another question on top of it, whether he like pets or not, specially cats. Richard was so intrigued by Eddie’s personality that he didn’t want to take the chance by saying no. This gave Eddie a reason to nod her acceptance, though she was still doubtful and afraid about the love she had buried deep in her heart in past deciding that she won’t fall in love with any other person.

After her daughter gave nod, Eddie’s mother was quite overwhelmed. On Sunday morning, she went to the church for thanking Jesus for accepting her prayers. Their marriage had been fixed for a date which was after three months and shopping was started. Eddie bought an elegant white gown for herself while Richard bought Turquoise blue coloured Tuxedo and the day came when they both took the oath in front of Jesus keeping Eddie’s parents dignified in honour.

Wedding happened but nobody asked Patty whether she wanted to share her partner or not and this became a reason for her resentment specially towards Richard because he was the one who came in between. Eddie and Richard started living in Eddie’s house as it was suitable for three of them. Whenever both of them used to lock themselves in the room, Patty started yowling in such high volume that Eddie couldn’t stop herself from coming out. For the starters Richard tried to understand the situation, but soon he started getting annoyed. He once asked Eddie for going out without Patty so that the duo may get some crucial time to spend. When they came back, as the door opened a foul smell get stacked to their nose, after maundering here and there, they got to know it was the poop which Patty did all around. Eddie became worried about Patty because she knew that Patty knows her place of doing shit. She took her to the doctor but everything was normal as per the doctor. He just advised Eddie for not leaving Patty alone which made Richard resentful. It was becoming difficult for Eddie to keep a balance between her spouse and her cat because neither Patty was ready for extending her hand of friendship to Richard nor he was.

One weekend on a bright Sunday morning when sun was over the head Richard and Eddie got awake only to find Patty nowhere around. Then after looking on terrace Richard found her hanging with the railing on open side. As he bends forward to bring her back, his foot slipped and he lost his balance and by that time Patty came back by herself. When Eddie came on the terrace she saw her husband lying in pool of blood on balcony of first floor. She called ambulance and took him immediately to the hospital. The doctors asked her to fill the forms so that they may take him to ICU as his situation was critical. This was the first time when Eddie was furious because of Patty as she was the one who was responsible for this hell of situation, having no idea that she literally was. After three hours of operation when doctors came out, they repeated their words about critical situation. By that time Eddie informed her and Richard’s parents about the accident. When they came and asked about the reason, she had no idea what she must say. She just told them when this happened she wasn’t there, so she has no idea. During the night Eddie’s parents asked her to go home and relax for some time. Though she was reluctant to go but the thought of taking some time to think that how all this happened, make her agreed to go.

As she reached home, Eddie sat quietly for some time thinking about all the incidents started happening just after her wedding which never happened before. While Patty came to her with a look of guilt in her sea green eyes, Eddie reluctantly asked her to leave. In these years when Eddie and Patty were altogether Patty knew how to cheer Eddie but today she was unable to do so. As Eddie stood up to throw Patty aside, her leg tangled in carpet and she fell straight on the table striking her face on it’s edge losing her valuable teeth which fell on the floor. She got swelling on her face and some scratches on her hands and legs. Eddie thought if she will tell her parents about it at the current situation they will get more worried, which filled her eyes with tears and while sobbing when she slept, she had no idea. She opened her bleary eyes when the cat, all seven pounds of squirming flesh, climbed onto her belly. Squinting into the sunlight streaming in from the open window, she discovered that she was now the weary possessor of a pounding headache, and at some point, had managed to lose both a tooth and a spouse. She thought about the moment when Richard asked her to send Patty to her parent’s home and she refused. What if I would have agreed with Richard?? Am I also responsible for his condition?  

As soon as she realised that she had been out of this world from long hours, she checked her cell phone. There were twenty miss calls in her phone quivering her body with the thought that what might have happened. She called her mother back and jumped in joy when she heard that Richard is out of danger and soon will get awake. She went to the hospital leaving Patty aside in her home. Richard was awoken and asking for Eddie. Till the time Eddie came, his parents tried to check reason of accident but he told them that as he was looking down from the grill of terrace, his foot slipped and somehow, he lost his balance and he don’t remember anything beyond. When Eddie came, she entered directly in the room and hugged Richard tightly, saying sorry in his ears with tears in her eyes. In return Richard replied with kiss on her cheek. Richard’s parents left the room to give some aloof moments to both of them.

While wetting the shoulder of Richard’s clothes with her tears, Eddie told Richard that she decided that she will not keep Patty along with them anymore after all these problems, but what Richard has said, startled Eddie’s ear drums,

I would like to befriend with Patty, who loved you more than me.”

© Payal Tyagi

This story I wrote for  Twinkle Khanna in Write India season 2 contest but could not submit it on time and the positive part is, this is the first time when could I wrote such a long story of more than 1500 words depicting the foibles of human condition through fictitious characters . You all amazing writers on word press are the judges, so I would request you all to send me your feedback.

Thanks in advance  for stopping by and taking out your time to read  🙂

Disclaimer : There is no copyright on above image used.

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Don’t throw glass bottles and jars #DIY 3

Hey readers,

Hope you are doing great as always !!

Today I am here to discuss about recycling of glass jars, wine and beer bottles.Every month we all get stock of different kind of glass jars at our home in the form of Jam jars, wine /mock tail juices/beer/shakes ,ketchup bottles etc and  don’t realize that they might be of great use which could be due to several reasons, may be absence of interest or free time or most of the times people don’t care about recycling.But in case if you do then I am going to tell you four simple artistic way of reusing bottles which could be done quickly :

As a flower pot :

All you have to do is remove the paper sticked around the bottles and jars and decorate them with some ribbon or coloured tapes/duct tapes  if you want.

 

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 As a snow globe :

All you have to do is put some glitter and water in the jar along with few drops of glycerine and put a little toy or  Santa inside (  incase you are making it during Christmas time ) either in inverted position or straight depending how want to keep it at the spot .

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 As a tea light holder :

For this you need spray paint bottle in one or two colours or you can use some acrylic colours for doing some simple artistic work on it.

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 As a Show piece/decorative item :

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And this is how the illumination works on them………

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Hope you are finding this post useful .Please let me know about your feedback or if you have any queries in the comment section.

Thanks for stopping by  🙂

Never let the smile fall off your face 🙂

©Payal Tyagi

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Balcony Cafe #DIY 2

Hey dear readers !!

Hope you are doing great !

In this post of DIY I will discuss about decoration of  balcony walls which can be done either by using wooden cardboards (if you have spare one ) or stickers or paintings if you are fond of them.Please note that mostly stuff I have used in my cafe was either spared or trashed, so either I had to make use or recycle it in different way.In my case  I had used a big wooden cardboard to decorate  wall of my balcony because I received it as a trash from my furniture vendor.As a lover of artwork I painted half of the card board as per my choice and on the other half I pasted some stickers . To explain further here is the pictorial representation :

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The wall hanging on top of cardboard was made with paper cups n craft papers,I will write another post for it’s tutorial.

As It’s our personal balcony cafe, so I was thinking of an idea to write ”Welcome” and after quite brainstorming I searched for this unusual sticker which says “Welcome to our nest ” and it complements the wall very well. If you will note this wall has a meaning right from the welcome to the bottom of cardboard canvas which you guys need to explain in the comments (Yes, it’s a task..he..he.. )

 If you need any help regarding balcony cafe concept or balcony garden or have any questions regarding recycling of any objects which you think can be useful or wanna give feedback, just lemme know in the comments section.

Till then take care and have lovely evening  🙂

Never let the smile fall off from your face.

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Flower vase #DIY 1

Hey fellas,

So I am going to start my second post of the section with flower vase which has been made from egg tray.Yeah, right an egg tray can be more useful than holding eggs….he..he .So before moving towards the pictorial presentation ,below is the list of requirements :

1.Egg trays (3 trays of 6 eggs for triangular vase and four for square shaped)

  1. Scissor

  2. Acrylic water colors

4.Designer duct tape

5.Newspaper for making stem

  1. Coloured tapes

Let’s start :

  1. First of all take all six eggs holding small trays and separate them in two parts with the help of scissor.Keep three parts aside.Then take another three parts and segregate them further in same way as shown in the picture.IMG20171228232102
  1. Take each segregated part and cut it with the help of scissor in the shape of flower .

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  1. Now colour the flowers with different colours so that you may get a colourful bunch and keep them aside for drying.

4.  Take a piece of  newspaper and cut it in to four halves . Then take each part and roll it as much as possible and put some glue at the ends so that it may not get open.Make the number of stems as per the number of flowers

5.Take a green coloured tape and roll it over each stem in a way so that the whole stem could look green .

6.Now take those three individual parts of egg tray which we left aside and colour them as per your choice.

7.In the mean time make a hole in the flowers with the help of scissor so that we may stick them to stems.

8.Stick the coloured tray parts with the help of duct tape and with this our flower vase is ready. Insert the stems in the holes of flowers ,though there is no glue required but if you want you can put little glue in the flower hole with the help of ear bud and then stick the stem with it.

9.Now our flower vase and flowers are ready with cheap thrill .

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So it’s quick and simple . You can keep it either in your home or in balcony as you want……

Thank you for stopping by 🙂 🙂

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Balcony Cafe – A new concept

Hey friends,

How are you all ?

I would apologize for not being much regular like I told in my last post that these days I am quite busy with lots of art work and small DIY projects of my home.One of them is “Balcony Cafe ” at my home.Balcony Cafe came in my mind because I love to go cafes specially roof top ones and every time I go there I focus on the creativity side.I always wished to create such lively experience at my home so that it could be enjoyed any time with home made meals, tea and coffee. I did lots of research for this but  didn’t get any idea that how I can organise my balcony in a way that it may remain spacious  and decorative with plantation and artwork of recycled products.So I started setting it up firstly with the things that were not useful for me inside home like the rack ,wooden pieces and tiny foldable table and that filled my brain with more ideas of recycling.My whole purpose of starting DIY is to use those things for decoration which are not useful like egg trays , glass jars, wine bottles  by modifying them using the supplies available at home, that’s what fills my heart more with joy and determination.Today I am just sharing the pictures of my small cafe to give an idea of this section and I will soon start sharing the methods in the next post.

Till then enjoy the pictures …

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Thanks for stopping by ..

Never let the smile fall off your face.

©TPayalblog

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Vlog of Mumbai from heights

Hey friends,

These days I am quite busy in settling my dream home which we bought recently, so I am very much irregular in blogging. But this comes with a good news that soon I will start a new section of DIY house n balcony decoration so there will lots of information for you guys to catch upon if you are also on same boat , till then watch the video and enjoy different colors of Mumbai city from the top .

Thanks for stopping by…

Let the smile never fall off from your face.

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Depression #Let’stalk

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Last year we heard about major sensational cases of Pratyusha Banerjee’s suicide and Jia Khan’s case ,who were not just the ordinary girls but the girls who made their name in the Indian TV industry and  get failed in love life, so they gave up . Here a question arise, do they had right to give up their life for a person who just came three to four years back, without thinking about their parents who came in  life much before that or I would say don’t think about anyone but isn’t their life so precious to ruin it for someone else who didn’t understand their value and took them for granted and the answer comes ,”No, they should not“..

Here I will narrate a real incident to inspire how nihilism of depression could be turn bright as shine of sun when it rise.I have a friend named Anu (fictional name) who was in very much love with a  boy named  Arun(fictional name) and they were happy in their relation till one year .They both were studying till that time.Arun was very much possessive for her and slowly slowly in one way or the other he got her disconnected from her friends.Even he hacked her social media accounts for a time . He just became her world & because of his dominating nature she used to do whatever he asked her to do. He used to assault her in public, but even then she couldn’t break her  relation because she was not having any trustworthy friend at that time around her whom she could rely on. After a year both completed their college and got placement.Even after so much complications in relationship Anu wanted to marry with Arun.She got job in small marketing company ,her schedule became hectic and Arun was employed in reputed MNC and he started harassing her mentally, for  working long hours and coming late at night and not searching a better job because for him it was not a reputed one.He started judging her skills. She belonged to a middle class family, who hardly afforded her education and so she had the pressure of responsibility of doing the job ,to start her career and the most notable point is  classification of job does not exist and no one becomes CEO of an organization in  a day but Arun could not understand that .She tried to change her job, but didn’t get any by that time.Gradually the fights between Anu and Arun increased and to lessen the turmoil she resigned from her job, just to make her love relationship strong & for finding better job in terms of Arun.A week after she resigned ,Arun revealed that he  want to break up the relation as he is with another girl from last one month.Her life was totally shaken as she was jobless and heart broken and none of us was with her because we didn’t know her world’s circumstances .

She found a new job but she could not come out of her depression.People around her in hostel used to make comments and bully her as if she was responsible for her break up. But she tried hard to live .She used to weep in nights,but she didn’t give up.Even she was not getting stability in job and it was difficult to survive in those dusky days.She had to change one job and  get another one,because at one place she was not liking work and at other place she became victim of politics played by colleagues.The only support she was having was of her parents,due to which she was not having courage of taking any drastic step .Eventually after an eerie phase she got a good job with stability to step up her career and after that she never turned back.She got married to a person who understand her very well and love her more than anything else.

 She told me now about this incident of her life when we met at my home.I asked her the reason why she didn’t tell me once,but I myself understood her hesitation because she was afraid of getting judged.Her story is an inspiration for every ordinary girl/boy going through same mental trauma.Our life is precious,it is a gift by God.Life may be hell today but it could turn in to bright future .Suicide should not be counted as suicide , it is a murder which is provoked by some other person whom we loved most,society and family relatives , due to which a person never come back home ,even if he/she wants too.People need to come forward and share their depression stories to lessen the burden of their heart and mind and Deepika Padukone (Bollywood Actress)started the process last year , Thanks to her for being such a great inspiration .We all have responsibility towards our society,don’t accentuate a person more who is already facing difficulty in his education ,personal life or anything else,instead we should try to make them laugh,lighten up their life by encouraging them.Nothing is better than inspiring a person to live his/her life on their own conditions

 

Depression #Letstalk

It’s an old post , thought to share it again.Thanks for reading 🙂