Two months ago my husband got to know that his company have plans of sending him to abroad for a year or more and he asked me about my decision,whether I want both of us to remain in India as I was working too, or am I ready to move along with him?? which could means dumping of my career as it’s not easy to come out of your comfortable zone ,again struggle to find a desirable job in some other country,even if you have work permit . Undoubtedly my decision was same like the one,I took one and half years before,of leaving my job in Delhi and moving to Hyderabad. I am a risk taking person because I strongly confide on my abilities ,so I gave notice period in my company.After we moved to Sydney,whenever I had conversed with relatives of my side,I was slapped with the negativism every time like I would be having much leisure,or I shouldn’t spend my husband’s money over phone calls or I should do kids in this free time as if a woman don’t has the right to take rest for her own ,which made me feel pity on me .Even when I stopped calling them, for some time I felt that my identity is based on my working in some company and I committed a big mistake by leaving my job.
On the contrary my in-laws and relatives of my husband’s family use to praise my understanding and sacrifice for growth of my husband and wish us happily.My mother and sister-in-law calls me, message me on regular basis to check whether I am taking care of myself before taking care of their son.Even my husband understands the value of my decision and encourage me to utilize this time in best way by doing those things which I couldn’t do while working because of lack of time, like writing blogs, sketch art or any other hobbies in which I am interested, as it could be a turning point for my career too. After he comes from office, he use to come in kitchen to assist me in dinner making ,so that I don’t feel alone and even he use to cook for me sometimes on weekends .When ever I write something,he read it and tell me where I need to correct,so that next time I could come out with something best.In office hours he just concentrate on his work ,but when he come back, his time is mine and it doesn’t mean that he don’t have space for his own.This makes me realize that my dignity just not depends on working outside home,instead what I am doing now is still dignified and what ever my hubby is earning is not just his own,instead I can proudly say we both are working hard in our ways to earn it.